I too would reiterate all that is said above.

If you continue to have contact alone with the child who has already made accusations about you....you are putting yourself in a terrible situation....the grandmother is accusing you of being unsuitable and a risk to the child so the next time the child makes an allegation she will have all the evidence she need to start a process thatshe is already gunning for and that will leave you in tatters.....

for the sake of your own sanity and your childs....get out of this.....if your husband loves and cares for you he will see that you mean business and it will open his eyes to the fact that you are a strong and independent woman who can stand up for herself and support herself. You have done it before the two of you got together and you can do it again.

You talk of women in your husbands family tackling blokes and coming out on top......well being strong for yourself and standing up for what you believe doesn't mean you have to use intimidation/violence and threats......You can come out on top by maintaining your dignity and looking out for you and your son and moving both of you out of this terrible environment into a safe, secure and nurturing home for you both.

I don't buy the two parents thing.......its ideal yeah......however its not ideal to allow a child to live in a home where his mother cannot function properly for fear of allegations and threats etc and the child will grow up feeling inferior and unstable.

Far better to bring him up with a great mother and other great male role models........sending big hugs x