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Old Nov 30, 2013, 06:45 AM
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Originally Posted by lonely_girl88 View Post
untrustworthy as in people always have a hidden agenda. it's hard to explain :/ but i feel and know that the only people i can trust and who will have my back are my parents. but everybody else is just waiting for me to trip.... it's like i try to be nice, and i get taken advantage of, all the time. whenever i do something good, that never seems to be notice. but when i make a mistake, that is noticed. i just want to be like everyone else, and not feel left out and odd all of the time.
This reminds me, of this conversation, I just had the other day, with someone(irl). It was about a friends work. She'd double checked something with HR, and realized her direct supervisor had neglected to tell her about one form. That turned into a discussion about 'hidden agenda.' My thought, was that, perhaps it was an innocent omission, due to, perhaps, ignorance of knowledge. So here now, you've got this supervisor now, being viewed as wanting nothing more for this person, to fail, when, in fact, perhaps this supervisor, just didn't know protocol, all for not double checking with those higher up. Hence, my use, of the word, ignorance. Ignorance, in this context, being less negative of a word, than what usually comes to mind. And, here, you've got this employee, who has serious doubts about her boss' intentions towards her. Truly, not a healthy mindset to be in.

On, a personal level, what is it, that leaves you feeling left out and odd, all the time? Could, this mistrust that you have of everyone else, be giving off this 'vibe'? It's human, to sense of others, that they won't get close, ever.
Thanks for this!
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