I'm reading the posts here and I don't know what lonely girl (the OP) thinks, but I'm getting that you people think it's somehow "wrong" to be nice. It's "wrong" to try to get along with people in the workplace and adjust yourself according to the personality type you're dealing with. I don't think one has to prove themselves by being a ______!

What kind of person sees someone that is agreeable as thinking little of themselves? Maybe they just want to get along and don't find a need to start trouble in the workplace. Maybe, just maybe, they don't feel as "little" of themselves as you think.

If indeed you did meet someone who thought "little" of themselves, why in the world would YOU (meaning anyone really) think little of them back?? Why wouldn't you think they are humble and kind? If someone thinks they are so wonderful or better than you (highly unlikely they are but let's assume), then why wouldn't THEY be the bigger the person and return the kindness to YOU. Why would they have to glower their righteousness all over you and continuously look for your mistakes? I'm sure you can find mistakes by them also.

Anyone can be a ______! in the workplace or in life in general. I'm sure Lonely Girl can learn if that's what it will take to wake people up. But it takes someone with a lot of patience and insight to try to get along with all kinds of different personality types (including the _____'s of the world). It's sad that Lonely Girl can't be who she is and be respected as such. Maybe the problem is not solely with Lonely Girl. Ever think of that?

The world is changing for the worse in my opinion. Just my take on this. Another way of looking at things if you can be open to it.