Dear 00642,

I'm so sorry your brother sexually abused you. But I am really mad at your parents........I don't think they are getting the gravity of the situation .

You were sexually abused and they expect you to live in the same house as your abuser???? I guess like all dysfunctional families - they are more bothered about coming across as "normal" family to the society. It's like they are turning a blind eye.

How old was your brother when he abused you?? When a child does something wrong, then an adult is responsible. Is there any way your brother was sexually abused himself and he took out all his frustrations on you??

You really, really need some family therapy....and a therapist needs to figure out why your brother abused you and why your family is trying to take it so lightly and turning a blind eye to your sufferings.

Is there a chance your brother can be forced to move out ....or can you move out (with your parents paying for it.....till you can afford your own place)

For you to heal and have healthy emotional development, it's essential that you are in a safe happy environment and your parents need to create that environment for you.

Please talk to your family about family therapy, if you cannot move out on your own. Your brother also needs some serious therapy.

You've gone thru something traumatic and what you are going thru right now can be very distressful. There is nothing wrong in seeking help if you need it. Somehow society, media have created a certain image that people who seek help from mental health professional are weak

Pls seek therapy without delay, preferably a family therapy.

Wishing you good luck and all my love!