I don't know…before (with another guy) just saying that I can't talk at the moment because I'm too upset/depressed to think or have constructive conversation at the moment was fighting words. I mean, it wasn't like I was saying I'd NEVER have the conversation, I just wanted to do it when I was in the right mind, but boy did that tick him off! I was going to apologize until he started texting me some pretty nasty stuff.

But the point is, whenever someone says "we need to talk" or starts a conversation of that nature, it's sure to drive away the other person. Or start a fight. He doesn't seem to be that kind of person, but I don't know everything about him. I just don't want to come off as needy (which I probably already do), aggressive, mean, or a b****. Because I usually come across that way even though I literally have no way of defending myself (and he knows that). Which I realize might mean I'm NOT safe around him since he knows I go down easily and which joints are the most sensitive (I have joint problems). Man, what have I done?

As for the other question, since I have dietary restrictions, if we eat anything, this effects what restaurants we can go to and that's unfair to him. Also, because of my joint problems, he has to deal with me wearing a retainer (which is gross, especially when I have to take it out) or my wrist braces (which are gross because they get gross when you wear them most of the time. And if I don't wear the braces, I really shouldn't lift anything or put pressure on those joints, so that kind of puts pressure on him to do all of that.

As to why he's making sacrifices, I can't answer for him.