Hi (((Tomi))):

One of the big things that I'm constantly having to work on doing is letting go of expectations and of exerting any kind of control over outcome, (over which we have no control anyway).

As I make changes in my own behavior and outlook, etc., I, of course, find myself hoping it will change the dynamic, (with my brother for example), but not having that expectation and not having any kind of change in him be the goal has really been freeing in a lot of ways, and it sure does help to not be overly (and even devastatingly) disappointed like I used to be when some effort I made did not result in a change that I wanted, beyond how it has helped me 'radically accept' what IS (for now) and reconscile myself to the reality as it exists now.

Thinking of you, (((Tomi)))...

XOXO,

J.