These forums and others like them are really helping me to understand and cope. Something I'm seeing is that its very important for each of us to remain calm. Looking back at different events in my life,I see that was one of my biggest mistakes. If I had remained calm when others melted down then life would have been much smoother. I'm not talking about being a doormat. I'm talking about not flying off the handle when the other person or persons does. I'll continue to try distraction techniques.