Being overweight is not a death sentence. It does take more effort to find flattering clothing than for slim people but you can still be attractive. Being overweight is not a problem with all guys. Yes, there are some guys who will only date a skinny, tan blonde but who needs them? My BMI is 39 so I am pretty big but I still have guys flirt with me.

I think it is more important to be comfortable with yourself regardless of size and be confident and do the most you can with what you have to work with. I rent clothing from an online service and I get to try clothes and wear them if I like them, buy them if I love them or send back right away if I don't like it. Make the best of what you have. My eyes are my best feature so I have learned which shades of shadow and eyeliner work for me. If you don't want to pay a lot of money for a makeover you can find some tutorials on youtube that demonstrate makeup techniques.

Do you have good self esteem? If not, start working on that with a T while you are developing healthy food choices and work on fitness.

Are you putting yourself in an environment where you can meet guys? In the city near me we have a singles group that is not a "dating" group but is for people to meet friends for dinner/bowling/picnics and such and so far I haven't found Mr Right but I enjoy chatting with the men and women.