That must be very frustrating for everyone. We used to have family meeting nights. Everyone could bring up concerns, requests and catch up on things. No judging, no fighting, just gathering information as to how everyone was feeling. Maybe your son really wants a job and to be on his own but needs your help to do it. Both of my daughters moved out and then back home a couple of times. That's nothing to be ashamed of. You just need to stop the fighting though, it really serves NO purpose. As Dr. Phil would say, someone has to step up and be the hero and lead your family into harmony. Believe me there will come a day when you will miss your son terribly...the day you know he's gone for good. He's really still pretty young, you know. The human brain isn't fully developed until age 25! Hugs!