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Originally Posted by healingme4me
This reminds me, of this conversation, I just had the other day, with someone(irl). It was about a friends work. She'd double checked something with HR, and realized her direct supervisor had neglected to tell her about one form. That turned into a discussion about 'hidden agenda.' My thought, was that, perhaps it was an innocent omission, due to, perhaps, ignorance of knowledge. So here now, you've got this supervisor now, being viewed as wanting nothing more for this person, to fail, when, in fact, perhaps this supervisor, just didn't know protocol, all for not double checking with those higher up. Hence, my use, of the word, ignorance. Ignorance, in this context, being less negative of a word, than what usually comes to mind. And, here, you've got this employee, who has serious doubts about her boss' intentions towards her. Truly, not a healthy mindset to be in.
On, a personal level, what is it, that leaves you feeling left out and odd, all the time? Could, this mistrust that you have of everyone else, be giving off this 'vibe'? It's human, to sense of others, that they won't get close, ever.
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i'm a bit of a quiet person, and sometimes i don't enjoy what others are talking about. and i get bored easily. like idk, i could never keep a friend for long. i'm always like, if i gotta do all the work in a friendship, and the other person does nothing, then i don't want to be friends. i get bored easily
it's like sometimes i don't know to be a friend, but i do? honestly, it's hard to explain. i don't think that people knows or sense that i don't trust them? plus, like i said, i try to be nice, so they'll be nice back. and people can't just expect me to trust them as soon as i meet them, that's not how it works :/ and back in primary and high school, i was bullied a bit :/ (i know bullying here, is nothing like bullying in america and england. it's small thing compared to bullying in those countries, so i never mention that.) and i was used by classmates, and i'll think that they were my friends, but they weren't. so i thought that everybody is like that. i mean, people being all genuine and kind is probably a fairy-tale thing anyway. these days everybody is so sometime-ish, and different - one way today, another way tomorrow. can you honestly tell me that you don't get frustrated by that sometimes?
@ george h. i don't take sides, at least i try not to. because usually, both parties are well in the end, and could end up turning against that one person, you know? and it just seems that everybody like the mean person, with the bad attitude, and everything works out for them, etc....
thanks everyone for replying to my posts. i understand what you were all trying to say, and i'll attempt the suggestions/advice offered
sorry for being a bother though.