Sami,

If you are hurting yourself, there is a reason why you do that. It has to do with emotions that we aren't able to take care of in more effective ways. Usually it takes therapy to learn how to manage those feelings. In the meantime, there are those suggestions here at the top of the page with the thumbtacks. Try those and see if they help you, but please talk to an adult that you trust IRL (parent, teacher, school counselor, church leader, ...) and tell them that you are hurting, and ask them to help you get some help.

While you are as young as you are, you can turn everything around and get the most out of life. If you wait, then you will have a much harder time because you will have to mourn for all of the years lost to being hurt and numb and unable to enjoy life, and you will still have to go back and undo all of the defenses that you have set up and learned to live with, and it will be that much harder the longer that you keep going in the same direction. It can still be done, but I sure wish that I had started a lot sooner than I did.

TC,
Rap