I've tried to let some time go by since the break up....to work on myself in therapy and to spend time with friends and family. It's been about two months now and it's better, but I still think about him every day and have a deep pain in my chest. For some reason, I stay hung up on the fact that we broke up via e-mail (actually, Facebook message) and have still not seen each other to talk. I know that this is his way and what he wants, but it just seems so, well, wrong, after 3.5 years together.

He was such an important part of my life and I loved him so much that to end it so coldly just doesn't make emotional sense to me. I'm wondering if this is the reason that I just cannot seem to process things and move on. Other than two phone conversations, we have not really communicated at all. He's just gone. I've respected what he wants...which is not to see each other, but I wonder about respect going the other way. I'm angry that he gets to end things completely on his terms and there was no respect in the other direction, which was my need to look him in the eyes and just ask him why he made the decisions that he did.

A friend advised me strongly against trying to see him. He said that, given how the break up happened, seeing him would not really get me what I want (meaning an answer to the question "why?"). He'd likely just be cold to me in person, and I'd feel even more hurt and upset.

I manage to get myself through each day...I try to stay busy, see friends, go to work, spend time outside with the dog, etc., but the early mornings are an absolute killer...I wake up with a pain in my chest and thoughts that just won't stop. It's usually too dark out to safely get up and go anywhere, so I feel kind of trapped with myself. I just want to move on....to get over this already....I'm sick of feeling sad and lonely but the moving on just doesn't seem to be happening.

I know there is no timeline for a broken heart but is it normal to still be feeling like this after a couple of months with almost no contact?