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Originally Posted by BonnieG2010
Maybe you need to be reclusive because you have too much pressure from others or you feel others as too much pressure?
It is possible that you have to find the right amount of caring that you can take, and when you can't take it anymore, it should be ok to say no to some, instead of going for the opposite behavior.
From what you wrote, seems to me that you go from being too much with people to not wanting them around at all.
You ask other people to tell you if you are too much. Maybe you should telling people around you when they are too much and set your boundaries. And maybe you won't need to go reclusive.
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Yep, last time a friend overwhelmed me I actually got sick. I do need to start telling peeps when they are being too much for me. I did mention it to a young adult friend, who kept upsetting herself and me by rehashing wrongs. It was just upsetting us both. Told her she should let it go, but that I realized she will still need to deal with this person.