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Originally Posted by liveforfish
My family is so dysfunctional. My spouse and I can't stop fighting with our 20 yr old son. We can't communicate with him at all without fighting. Even I'm guilty. I get so moody and irritable being in the same room as my son. This is so sad. I feel terrible that I hurt him so with my words.
We want him out and working, but yet our fighting and words just drive him back into his room.
Sometimes I feel like there's so much negative energy in this house. My husband gets moody just walking in the front door.
We even fight about him when we attempt date night and trips out of the house.
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He's 20, living at home, and not working? Is he in school full time? If not I can see why there is tension between you. I personally would not allow that to happen. If 18+ get a job, be looking for one or be in school. I'm not going to be there for my kids forever so they need to start making their way toward independence. I'm not sure if this is the source of a lot of the tension and if I'm incorrect please forgive me.
The negativity related to your son has to have a source. The way you state it, it doesn't sound like it's been something that's gone on forever but of late. If that's the case I'd try to figure out what is at the root of your negative perspective of him. Without that you will not be able to remedy the situation and it will keep going on.