No one here is in a position to give you medical advice and the experiences of others won't have any bearing on what will or won't work for you sadly. As far as I know, second generation anti-psychotics and mood stabilisers are used in the treatment of BPD. This could well be outdated info but either way I think the best advice would be to talk to your psychiatrist. State very clearly what you want and if you're willing too, carry on trying meds until you find one that best meets your expectations. Good luck.