Hi Simon,
Like hell,you accept! You fight and fight
till you drop for the child you once were. You are
all he has,he needs a modern day warrior to face
ALL,and to find some GOLD in all this dirt!
What you need to do in TANDEM with therapy,is
to lift your self-esteem,self-respect,and HONOR.
Are you going to let that child down? YOU ARE
ALL HE HAS GOT! He brought you this far,now
its your turn. Yes you will fall down,just get the
hell back UP again--he's all alone in there,strike up
a relationship with him,he didn't go away cause you
grew up,he still exists inside you.
O.K.,2 things you
need to start on: Self-esteem,and assertiveness; one
helps the other,and vice-versa. To that end,start
with this psychologist, Nathaniel Branden. This guy knows his stuff, I tell you! 2 book titles by him
to start you off: "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem",
and "Honoring The Self"--just the title of that one
made me feel better. The good thing about his
writing is,it not only helps you,but helps you see
the why,wherefore,of other peoples behavior!
Also,you need a good book on assertiveness,and
a good one is,"When I say no,I feel guilty!" By
Manuel Smith. It is out of print,so you will have
to get it second hand;you should get both authors
at Alibris. Let me know if you get them alright?
Deepest Respect,
BLUEDOVE