This statement here is contradictory to your opening post. Everything you're saying is about being self-conscious about what you're saying and doing with this guy.

The other thing you've brought up is that you don't understand why it needs to be two sided vs one sided. A relationship by definition is between two people, not one person doing everything required. I can relate to this, as I've sometimes acted that way. But it will never, ever work if you don't give the other person a chance to put forth their efforts and energy into this.

Either they like you or they don't. In my experience, if a man truly likes you, there is little room for doubt. If there is confusion, doubts, being super self conscious, then either he is playing games, effed up, or using you.

I've also found that men (and some women) do NOT like to be pressured. I'm pretty sure you've given him the message that you're interested, don't chase. This makes a person appear desperate, I'm not saying you are, but the appearance of desperation is not attractive to anyone.

Hope that helps and forgive me if it was too harsh.