So last year after a horrible breakup with my emotionally and sexually abusive ex, I wound up on my mother's doorstep with my then 3-year-old son in the middle of the night with nowhere to go. I haven't lived with my mom since I was 17, so the transition was rocky, but after we both started treatment, things got better.

I pay rent to my mother and purchase nearly all the household items (I make not even a third of what my mother makes, but I do my share). That split I don't feel is fair as I literally scrape by and feel as though I'll never be able to save up and get back out on my own. She is always complaining about how I'm breaking her financially, but I try not to listen.

The problem as of late for me is the distribution of household chores. My mother and I have an agreement that during the week, the house is my responsibility. I do this. Every day I do dishes, vacuum, dust, pick up, take out trash, etc. The split comes that on the weekend, she does the chores and gives me a break.

She's not doing this. I literally spent 2 and a half hours Friday, and an hour Saturday cleaning and was only told of the tasks I didn't do and how what I did "wasn't really that much." I'm used to hearing this during the week, but when picking up her slack on the weekend I start to become intensely angry.

My mom is bipolar, so I'm trying to be understanding because I think she's in a low but I'm feeling drained and unappreciated. How can I get her to help if she's low? I realize that asking her to do as much as usual is insensitive when she's low, but doing it all (and being scrutinized for it) is starting to drain me emotionally and physically.

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