I don't know what to do about my situation with my daughter. She's 36 and is married and has 2 children I adore. For 25 or so years, I have put up with and tolerated disrespect, put-downs and mean behavior from her. She expects me to come to her house and spend several days over Christmas, but the thought fills me with dread, because she always finds something to criticize me about. When I have contact with her, I am extremely anxious, because I have to monitor every word I say in hope I will not inadvertently say something she can interpret as negative so she can attack and scream at me. In February, she told me that when I'd spent Christmas with her, she couldn't wait to get me out of her house, that she feels she has to protect her family from me. She expects me to come again this year, and I planned to give it another try, I am very hurt by her completely disregarding me and excluding me from her family Thanksgiving celebration. I told her I had changed my mind about coming for Christmas, and now she says I am being negative, selfish and dramatic...Actually, I am just trying to protect myself from being hurt again. How in the world do I deal with a situation I cannot win? If it were not for my grandsons, I would just walk away for good. I am wondering if I should have just gotten a dog instead of becoming pregnant....My healt is broken