Well. I don't have kids, but my mom tried to protect us from my dad. One thing that she did that didnt help was to tell us that dad really loved us and we should just forgive him. It was like she was invalidating everything we went through. I never knew if this was normal for dads that loved their kids. I think honesty is what helps kids and reinforcement about your love for them. Work on their self esteem and replace bad relationships with good ones. Perhaps there is a loving uncle or grandfather that you trust to build her up. Personally. I wish my mom would have put boundaries on my father to keep him freom abusing us. I wish she would have thought of a line that he couldnt have exceeded with us without her speaking up or leaving.

Gosh.. sooooo to summarize. I think the following helps kids.
1. Acknowledgement of their pain
2. Speaking about their feelings and validting them
3. Vowing to protect them from abuse
4. Working on their self-esttem and making them feel loved
5. Letting them understand that it is not their fault
6. Prayer

again.. i have no kids.. im just opinionated lol.. so take this with a grain of salt