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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
Yes, I think it's perfectly fine to still be feeling this way. It's like he died and you're grieving his death, but in this case, it's the death of your relationship with him and who you thought he was. The winter months and the holidays are definitely not helping. Keep doing what you're doing, don't punish yourself for feeling the way you are, and keep taking care of yourself. Soon enough, spring will be here, and I'm sure you'll start to feel better. In the meantime, treat yourself like your best friend... What would you tell them in this case?  |
Oh, I hear you....I can give decent advice to friends who've ended relationships, but I'm the idiot who can't do for herself what I'd tell someone else to do. At this point, I'm trying to stay busy (took a women's auto clinic, doing some home repair work myself, etc.) and work on my other relationships (the one's that I may have neglected during the relationship, to be honest). I pretty much say yes to every invitation that a friend sends out and am spending time with people who are good to be around (happy, optimistic and grounded people)...I'm in therapy to figure out how to avoid situations like this in the future and to be better about being happy/content on my own. I really hope to come out of this as a stronger but kinder person. I'm trying to see this as a learning experience but a little positive reinforcement would be good right about now. I had really hoped what he told me was true and that he really just wanted to move back home to be closer to family. I wouldn't have liked it but I would have understood/respected it. To find out two months after the break up that this was likely not true just kind of opens the wound again...It would have even been okay had he told me that he just didn't want to be with me any more...the untruths were just not necessary.