This is a tough situation. I would think, from reading you post that you are a very forgiving and peace loving person. Take care of yourself, and remember that the problem is his. If you continue with this relationship eventually you will probably have to set limits where he does not drink when you are around. He doesn't want you to change him, but he must realize that his behavior is not very conducive to a healthy relationship. So, take care of yourself, and remember to be true to yourself.