I have avoiding logging on because I've been feeling pretty sad about everything. The good thing is that I pretty much avoid discussing or even acknowledging my mom when she tries to talk to me. I was beginning to question if I am over thinking all of this and this morning she reminded me that she does have NPD. I was internally pissed off for about 30 min because I feel like she's getting away with murder (definitely exaggerating but it seems that way at times) it's frustrating because you're fighting a never-ending battle. After I calmed down I actually found some humor to her NPD ways because she wants to appear to everyone that she's a confident, "perfect" and secure individual but she really is the complete opposite. I found humor in that because that was an internal victory that I got to experience for my emotional benefit.
My mom can't handle me acting distant and it's getting pretty sad the efforts she is going to just to get some attention. It's almost like you realizing that someone close to you has NPD, you need to take that knowledge as the key to unlock the emotional freedom you can now look forward to in your life.
It's very difficult for me to feel sorry for her right now because emotional abuse is just as bad as any other form of abuse, the only thing that differs is you can't physically see the scars or bruises.
Is it normal to question your realization that someone who is close to you has NPD? Also, why was I able to learn very recently to control and express my emotions and always without a doubt can empathize with other people, but my mom didn't? I am angry and disappointed with my dad for not standing up to my mom when she was emotionally abusing me and my siblings?
Clearly, she nor my dad taught me those important qualities in life.
I don't know any of you guys but if I hadn't posted on this forum and hear your stories, I would be in an emotional backhole. I want to give everyone who has shared their stories on here and even those who haven't but have have read allof our stories HUGS!!!
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