You said in your post, I think more than once, that you're always there to help people. So why aren't you helping your wife? How are you ever there to help anyone if you aren't even helping your wife with basic housework?

Sorry... it just sorta sounds like you want perfection to fall in to your lap, and that will never happen. I don't know what your qualifications are for work, but if all you are qualified to do is office work... then either go back to school or get a desk job, even if you hate it. You have a child to help look after.

Spend your time nurturing and perfecting a hobby. A lot of people do that because the reality is that most jobs aren't pleasant and the way that our job market is? You can't usually afford to be picky anymore.

I don't get how you are feeling like you aren't being forced to do anything. It sounds like you're going to lose your marriage because you aren't doing anything. It sounds like it's at the point of either A) Do something or B) lose your marriage.

Isn't your wife worth you doing something for? If she isn't... then perhaps it's a good idea to end the marriage.

Sorry. I know this doesn't sound like it's supportive, but I don't really know any other way to say any of that.