I can't imagine the pain you must be going through. Your daughter is way out of line and very hurtful to you. I can understand your not wanting to subject yourself to torture at Christmas. It will be a shame not to see your grandsons on Christmas. I knowyou will miss them. My heart goes out to you.
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Bipolar I, Depression, GAD Meds: Zoloft, Zyprexa, Ritalin
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