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Originally Posted by Broncos38
my fiancee doesn't like being treated like a child. She CERTAINLY WON'T let us get split up because of her mother. She is DESPERATE to get out of the house and loves being with me NO DOUBT ABOUT IT. She has been actually HELPING to look for the right apartment she is so desperate. She WANTS OUT!! She has been looking to other resources to help back her up(i.e. Epilepsy Foundation, her now former nurse practitioner). She knows things aren't right, and really all she wanted was to not leave any unresolved issues at home. That was the reason she sought the help of a therapist to begin with. She was hoping it would help mend fences between her and her mother first. She wasn't TRYING to seek approval really. Just an easier way to talk to her mother.
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She needs to move out with you first, then the work on her relationship with her mother is something to come back to. If you are to get married, YOU need to be #1 first in her life, period. Everything else is extra. On top of that by moving out and standing up for herself, she will be making the statement to her mother that she can't control her anymore and it will be something that can start their relationship in the right direction.