I have seen on here quite often about being friends with T. It seems that for many of us it is something devoutly to be desired. As I write this I am counting down the days until the "2 year waiting period" is up and I can contact my ex T. Then it occurred to me, hey wait, you are friends with an old T. I guess I had not thought about it because it was not something that I set out to do. It was something that just happened over time. Over a very long time. This woman was my T about 28 years ago. Our time in T together was short (less than a year) and I never really attached to her, though I liked her. Then then helped my daughter through some rough times about 25 years ago. As time went by we would see each other at various events (especially at children's school). Then about 12 years ago I took a job where "counseling" was part of what I did. I would call her occasionally for advice which she was always happy to give. Then 7 years ago we became co-workers. It was soooo long since she had been my T that it wasn't an issue (in fact, I suggested her for the job), and now I would say (and I think she would too) that we are friends. Not BFF's, but friends. We sometimes go to a concert or art exhibit together (I am single and her husband doesn't care for these things). So, yes, you can be friends. But I think that it is something that will just happen over time if it is meant to be. Not something that you can force.