I have PTSD for a number of reasons. I get triggered on anniversaries often. Christmas time is one such example because I was brutally manhandled by a cop who was supposed to be doing just a welfare check but he essentially assaulted me.

Last year I had a powerful and vivid recollection of the whole thing. It was terrifying just as if it were happening again. I don't know if I'll have flashbacks this year but I want to be careful and give myself space just in case.

Problem is my husband isn't listening to me about this. His daughter, who I don't like anyway, wants to come over and cook a meal for the family. I told him why I couldn't participate. That I would either have to go elsewhere or she could do it on New Year's which she herself mentioned.

He just got very stern and angry. He just feels that he has to negotiate the problems in his family and wants things to go his way so he doesn't have to deal with the problems.

I asked again if he had even heard what I said. He was just a jerk and didn't seem to be able to take it in. Now I'm really hurt and angry and worried that he is just going to say yes and let her take over the house that day, when I don't have any other place to go and wouldn't want to be around people anyway.