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Originally Posted by Harley47
So sorry you are going through all this Middie, especially right now.  While I do defer to the professionals when they advise to give him a little time (if only due to them being actual professionals), I still maintain it is absolutely incredulous and entirely unacceptable that he would knock you down in an attempt to get his phone back, regardless of the pregnancy. The fact you are pregnant and that still happened only amplifies how astoundingly...I dare say cruel...the act was. To me, I would think if he didn't have anything to hide, he wouldn't have made such a drastic attempt to keep you away from the phone. To physically knock you down, especially while expecting, signals to me a huge red flag.
I hope he will come around...he does you and your child a massive injustice by not being there for you. While I hope and pray you two are able to reconcile, if things don't work out that way, you owe it to yourself and to your child to get whatever support from him that you can. It is, after all, his child as well...he owes you at the very least that much.
You are in my thoughts and prayers as you go through this. Please keep us posted, and congratulations on the baby girl. 
Hugs,
Harley |
Thanks Harley,
I too think that there was something definately on his mobile that he did not want me to see and think it was totally unacceptable for him to knock me over. I think maybe that is why he couldn't face me on the monday and why this has resulted in a nervous breakdown......maybe he knows that I do no believe what he says and that he cannot lie to me and would have to tell me the truth......and he cannot do that......maybe he feels guilt???.....I am unsure and as I am unable to see him I cannot find out and maybe I never will.
It would take courage to tell me the truth and explain to me what happened ...courage he may not have. He did send me a text message that night saying that he was sorry that he knocked me over and that he had not mean't to do that and was asking how I was and if I was ok. I did not answer him that night as it was very late and also I was in terrible shock and having tightenings, my daughter had got my sister over who is medical also and she was helping me to bed to rest. The following day I went into hospital to be seen as I had not felt baby move.. following the monitoring of the baby and an ultrasound scan I did text him to tell him.
When I put it to him the following day that he was so consumed in not letting me see his mobile he was prepared to knock me and baby over he just said that I should trust him as he does me......I just said to him that he is able to see my mobile 24/7.....I neither hide it from him nor would I stop him from looking at it.
I thank you for your support...........hugs x