I'm sorry that you went through that. It can be rough telling someone. The t's gender only matters if you think it does. I personally could not talk I'm much depth about my csa to my male t because I wasn't comfortable talking to a guy about it. I think I have an easier time talking to my female t about it, but it helps that she also specializes in that kinda of stuff. Many people feel the gender thing makes a difference. I think it ultimately comes down to trust and comfort. I was able to talk about some of it with my male t as I got more comfortable with him.