Okay all. I am quite confused here. So basically, I don't have a father. I know my father and he is alive and well. He wants nothing to do with me anymore and I had a step-father for quite a while... 10 years. Well, that didn't work out quite so well so again, without a father figure. I know and realize that this is going to effect my relationships with guys in the future. I guess I just don't know what the limit is... I am dating this guy... we are 11 years apart in age. I know this is a huge difference and we both see it, but we don't see it as being a problem. We have had our share of problems and fights already and I felt like (twice) I should break up with him. When I hear his reasons, I have a thought in the back of my mind that he is lying. I have already told myself that I deserve better than him and I need to break it off. I feel, deep deep down, that he is somewhat controlling. When he is talking to me, I feel like something comes over me and I cannot resist him. I hate to think that I am being naive about the whole situation in that I cannot admit to myself the danger of it. But I DO realize it. Am I maybe just over analyzing it? Am I just being paranoid? I am so confused and. . .ugh. I don't know. I know it is the lack of a father figure in my life that draws me to him, that draws me to older men, but women go through that all the time so I am thinking it may be more... but am really unsure. Anyone have any advice? I want some oppinions, no matter what they are, I have already heard the extremeties. Thanks and I hope you all are doing well. =) <font color="black"> </font>