I have a crazy story from my youth -- funny, I had completely forgotten about it until just now. You just reminded me of it and now I'm thinking that it could be why your post stood out for me. I'm way too tired to type it right now, but short story is that I was practically coerced into dating someone about 10 years older when I was 20 and in college. A few months later, he proposed, and I knew I had to break it off because he was getting more and more possessive as each week progressed. He flipped out (I did it publicly, thank god), and you know how you have people in your life who you shudder at the idea of seeing again? He's it for me. And I live 3,000 miles away and haven't seen him in 17 years. Ick. Glad I slithered away unscathed from that one! Lesson learned! I will NOT be trapped into a relationship that I don't want to be in!

Funny how I completely forgot about it until just now!