Hey everyone. I'm new to the forum. This is my first post. I'm looking for a place where people can help me figure out some things.

My boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago, and I'm very down in the dumps lately... mainly because I feel our break up was unfair. His mother forced us to break up. (We're in college. I'm 22, he's 20, and his mother is still controlling his life). He has been counseled several times to leave home, but he just won't. I see a lot of signs in him that he has Adult Attachment Disorder.

Here's some info about him: All through our relationship (over a year), he suppressed his feelings, was afraid of affection and intimacy, and kept everything inside. He never talked about any problems or anything. The day he broke up with me, our relationship had been doing really well. We had a great day that day... we went to the movies, and went shopping together and had an all around great day. We were on our way home, and he wouldn't talk much. I asked him what was up. He kept acting weird, so I said, jokingly, "You're acting really weird. You act like you're gonna break up with me or something." He wouldn't even look at me, and he said, "Yeah I guess I am." Strange?

His parents haven't had a happy marriage for 20 years. They sleep in separate bedrooms. They haven't had marital relations in over 15 years. They control their children and try to make them feel guilty for leaving home. They also have a 23-year-old who still lives at home. Their 25-year-old stays there almost every weekend. I think that they are afraid of their children moving out because they would have to face living alone together or divorce. They have tedious rules for their adult children including what time they have to be home, how much time they have to spend at home, who they can see, who they can't, what they can do in their spare time, how much money they spend, etc. It's insane! They baby them as well. My ex is the youngest, so obviously he got babied the most. He is 20 and doesn't even know how to write out a check because his mother has done everything for him his entire life.

Anyone have any suggestions as to what is wrong with this family? I want them to seek help. I want to go to them lovingly and tell them the concerns I have and suggest to them that they seek professional help. I just don't know which types of things to take to them. I think my ex has Adult Attachment Disorder. I think his parents have some kinds of disorders, I just don't know what!! Help!!!

Hermione