Hi everyone! My name is Alex and I have been struggling to disregard my girlfriend's sexual history. It is strange because I never thought of myself as an insecure person and I realize that I might be over sensationalizing something trivial but I can't help feeling the way I do. I really like this girl and I want to handle this properly but on my own I find myself drifting into negativity so I scoured the internet looking for some answers when I found this forum. I am hoping to hear some of your opinions or possibly be directed somewhere that can help me out.

I am currently in a relationship with a lovely girl and we connect on many different levels so I am very excited for our future. However, recently I started to learn about her sexual history and it is making me feel uneasy. I do not expect my significant others to be virgins because that would be unreasonable and hypocritical, because neither am I, but for some reason her experiences are hard for me to cope with. She has had 13 partners, she has had a threesome with another female and another with two males, a partner more than 10 years older than her, among other things. It wasn't just the acts themselves but also how casually she approached those situations. "It just kind of happened" is usually the overarching justification. The promiscuity of it all is perplexing, but I don't want to be this judgmental.

Has anyone else had similar experiences? How did you handle it?