I know this sounds cliche, but you don't find them. If you looking you find the needy men, they are looking for someone to cling onto, use, and abuse. It's a pattern they have, and they will latch onto any living being.

I would say be patient, let someone unsuspecting find you, maybe it's a guy you pass every day, or an old school friend you had a crush on. There is a guy out there you just have to wait.

Good luck