Dear crylights,

I'm so sorry for all the pains you've gone thru. It's really unfair when parents want to project the "perfect family" image and all feelings have no room. But it's typical of narcissistic dysfunctional families.

I request you to read articles by Dr. Karyl McBride, in psychology today. She's written a lot about dysfunctional families. It really helped me, especially when therapy is difficult to afford. Also, Dr. Gregory Jantz has written a lot about emotional abuse -

Dr. Gregory Jantz | Page 2
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...distorted-love

Ending abuse in your life can be a great way to start your recovery. If you are a minor, perhaps you can talk to your school or college counsellor. If you are an adult...can you and your sister move out if you can afford it??

I request you to write all about emotional and physical abuse you've gone thru. Writing is very therapeutic. It gives a clarity to your thoughts. Talk as much as you can about it with your sister....you both can atleast have each other's back, since your mom is clearly not going to stand up for you guys.

Get into therapy as soon as you can.....as if it is left unhealed, the pain spills over onto your other relationships.

We're here to help. My best wishes!!