Sorry that you are reliving the experience. I do know what that is like and it is really difficult. Please do anything you can do to feel safety. If that means switching to a female for comfort, then so be it. I have a male therapist and for things even like rape he has been good to talk to. But when it came to an issue of domestic violence, I found that he had difficulties really getting it. So I considered a female trauma expert. He was okay with that. In the end I worked with him instead because when I discussed why I felt that I needed someone who got it better, he came around and started showing more understanding and sensitivity. But it is not all the way processed so I reserve the right to go to a female who might get it more readily.