Thanks archipelago. Do you mind me asking how you tested it out? i have thrown all sorts of obstacles at my T and she has passed every test and jumped through every hoop..yet i still cant accept that she wont abandon me.

She is so understanding, and knows i do these things to test her due to my fear of abandonment, which is good. I am getting tired of myself and of worrying that she wont be there when i turn up for my nest session.