I tested it by being a pain in the butt so I can't say I would recommend it. I just pushed him hard and demanded lots of outside contact, which made it difficult on him because he is very busy. I was doing this out of pure need and unconsciously in the sense that I wasn't really in control. He did stay with me though and proved once and for all that he would always be there. So I really try not to test him anymore and try to just go with it.

I think a much better way would have been to have a discussion about it in sessions. That way it is not being difficult or challenging in ways that inappropriate and really unfair. He know I'm sensitive to this issue so he takes time out to reassure me on his own without my having to prompt it. That feels really good and a much healthier way to test it.