Thanks, I just needed to hear back from someone since I feel like I'm not being understood and that hurts.

I know holidays are difficult anyway and it was easier when his family members lived in town so they would do it at their places. I don't celebrate anyway and had very ugly run ins with his daughter so that adds to it and would essentially be fake to act like that was okay. I just don't get why he can't be supportive of what is obvious as a trauma. He should have reassured me and been sensitive to what I was saying. I had to repeat the story 3 times before he seemed to hear me. that made me feel triggered.

Yes, I did file a complaint and they did an internal investigation which basically means a whitewash. They first told me that force was used but it was warranted which is untrue. The guy strangled me with a choke strap when I was passive and in handcuffs and he laughed in my ear as I was dangling. Then they sent another finding saying the whole incident didn't even happen. that was telling. They think they can do that due to the factor of mental illness so they can just use that as the reason why they can get away with anything. It totally sucks.