Thank you for the responses everyone. It is nice to read different perspectives on this.

Me and this girl have only been dating for around 4 months so it is still a fresh relationship. I am 23 and she just turned 22. She informed me that some of these experiences happened 3 or less years ago. She has been very open with me on two separate occasions but I usually get too anxious and have to slyly divert the conversation once I can't handle it anymore. After opening up to me the first time she started crying because she was worried her confessions would end up affecting the outcome of the relationship as it has in the past.

In my mind I understand what jeffro1972 and Webgoji are suggesting in leaving the past and judgments aside because I think that is only right and fair; I am a pro-choice at my core. However, I still find myself reacting to it in the way Useless Me and FrayedEnds are with some reservations. There is a contradiction between what I believe are my values and how I am responding this situation.

With that said, I am more apt to believe that the issues lies within myself than I am to believe it lies with her. I would like to start looking inward before I start reacting outward.

I don't view this as the end all, as I believe I can move on from THIS, but my fear is that this will come up again and she will divulge more. At that point should I listen and discuss it, or stop it prematurely? I clearly can't handle it properly but I wonder if there is something to gain from that knowledge