Grey Matter, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather. I know that must be a painful time for your family and of course, your grandfather. That "C" word is very scary. Been there, all you want is it to be gone. Hope they can help your grandfather.

Sorry your family is taking it out on you about not being able to pay the rent. Extended families should mind their own business. I have some I have excluded from my life because they are such triggers. I hope your family finds a way to get the rent paid. You need to take care of yourself.