Hey (((((((((((((((((((((((Hamstergirl))))))))))))))))))))))...

I totally get that a lot of the things that your are going thrul/challenges that you have are extremely difficult, but...instead of me telling you again how sorry I am that that all has happened/is happening, let me take more of a risk, and throw a few ideas at you...

Can we help you to start challenging some of the negative 'forever and always' type statements that you are saying to yourself like on an internal tape recorder?

Some things, yes, will probably always be true, but not all of the things = you can't know that you will 'always' be miserable, for example. That's predicting too far into the future, and it just feeds the negative self talk loop that plays for you over and over.

That's tormenting yourself unnecessarily from what I see, and you deserve better than that.

Will you look up 'cognitive behavioral therapy' on yahoo or google and see what you think, then maybe we could discuss what it says...

A lot of us here have found it really helpful as a way to change what we call our 'stinkin' thinkin'.

We can't necessarily control the things that happen to us, but we do have quite a bit of control over how we respond to the things that happen to us.

Sending you hugs...

Warmly, Peanut

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