Can you ask your T if you can make things more structured? Like... maybe reserve 5 minutes at the end to decide on the topic(s) for the next session based on what you went over that day.

It might help lessen your anxiety about attending the appointment, because you'll have some time to think and reflect on the topic and it won't be a surprise.

"When I feel like I have enough room to breath between things, I usually do not get nervous. When things get to tight, I tend to obsess about things and I cannot handle things."

That is me to a T, and has been the bane of my existance since August. I haven't had enough time to breathe between going from one stressful thing to another. It's at the point where EVERYTHING is stressful (even going to the store to pick up a prescription!). I haven't had enough time to breathe and get relaxed AND get caught up on chores. So... I get where you're coming from.

It's probably a bit of both you know. I get anxiety and stress over doing things that no one else is involved with (ie. cleaning my apartment and somehow finding the time to do it!) and stress over all the different things I have to attend (worry about being late or being too tired or about people asking things etc etc), and just stress about being around people because I don't think I can keep things together well enough. I feel really overwhelmed, which makes my normal coping skills for the social anxietys sorta go out the window which just makes is MORE stressful.

Am I making any sense at all?