Ahh thanks for your reply....I am trying not to write him off completely as he has had a really bad nervous breakdown and when I spoke to his father last week he told me that my partner wanted me to know that he was hospitalised but that he did not want anyone to know where as he didn't want visitors at that time.

I feel that if I write him off completely then I have given up on him.......when really he is very poorly and unable as his father said to make decisions for himself. Sadly if he were able to think clearly and logically then he would not be in there and needing medication, which I know they are trying and therapy.

I work myself in acute inpatient settings in hospital(although not mental health) and therefore know that they would have stabilised him and moved him out into the community setting asap due to the cost to the NHS alone of inpatient bed and treatment, so therefore for him to be in hospital still he must be very poorly.

Like I say I am not thinking that he has abandoned us as I have not been told that either by him or his parents and I am not thinking, or making decisions about things based on lack of information or out of date information.

I am trying to live on a day to day basis and look after myself and my family......in the hope that he can get the treatment he needs in a safe and caring environment .....and if /when he feels ready he can come home and we will support him if that is what he wants to do. If not then I will cope with that and that will be his choice.

I think it will take a great deal of time. However, I have to take that time and try and be patient as I love and care for him and he is the father of my child.

Many thanks for you support and for sharing your story....sending you a hug x