hi missy
no you are not being too emotional or vengeful but holding on to these emotions isn't doing you any good. you are right that she cant hurt you any more so it is time to let go of the anger you feel because the only person it is hurting is yourself. therapy will help. sorry you have had a bad experience with counseling, but there are many good counselors out there that will give you a different experience than you have had in the past. take care. And welcome to psych central.