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Old Dec 04, 2013, 05:18 PM
mama pajama mama pajama is offline
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Hi, not sure where this belongs. I have been diagnosed w/anxiety. I don't know if I have bipolar or OCD or what. I've noticed that I have practice arguments or confrontations in my head, especially after a conflict with someone. I keep going over what will happen we we see each other, what they'll say, how I'll reply, over and over again. I know this isn't productive or helpful because if anything I get all wound up. Usually what I imagine what the other person will say is not what realistically they would say. Something will trigger the person/incident in my head and next thing I'm in the middle of a imaginary fight where the other person is screaming and I'm calm and the 'mature' one. In the past if the conversation does happens with the real person I am the flustered one, basically having a tantrum. I wonder how much of the argument would have happened had I not planned it out beforehand and gotten worked up.

I would love to stop this as it makes me focus on people other than the ones that matter. It's been this way for years and I don't remember a lot of the people who took up so much headspace at one point. I would love to stop these thoughts. Any tips/ideas? I am reading CBT book and love it, but these thoughts aren't really discribed at all. Is it called something? I know 'fortune telling' seems to describe it best, but what about a conversation?

It's just really not beneficial to me and I'd like to stop.
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