I understand completely. I've been making progress with 'if it is you who hurt me, you are the one who should be trying to make it better.' Still not where it should be but making progress. My fiance is emotionally stunted in certain areas due to some family pain in his childhood.

Does he have any issues? Like, not a close relationship with his parents or feeling like he had to hide his feelings or anything? If he's like my fiance, he's so unsure of how to even make that emotional connection because he's never experienced it before.