And yes to all of you who have said the thing about how she should not be in social work. I think she really can't handle the emotional toll of this job and it has changed her somehow recently.

One thing that often comes up is that she has no time to chat with me because she always needs her time in the evenings to process her day. As my husband said she must be having some crazy emotional issues if she gets out of work every day by 5:30, has time to go out with her friends, host dinner parties, go camping, iChat with her sister, and spend entire evenings alone watching TV and yet still feels overwhelmed and like she has no time.....

Of course it could always be a case of she's just not that into you.....

Which is what I have been trying to suss out for awhile and she is always defensive and annoyed that I don't understand how stressful her job is.

Well now.