If you want a successful relationship, you have to work for it. You have to treat her with as much respect as you would give yourself at all times. She must be your equal in all decisions. You must communicate. You must take care of her, as she will take care of you. It's best to assume when you are married that she really is your other half. Treat her that way. Never abuse her. She will need physical attention as well as other attention. Make her your best friend. Trust her, and be trustworthy. It's hard. Really hard, but good. Pick your fights. Accept some annoyances. Don't let something ruin what you two have, even if at the time it seems you can not stand her anymore. Learn to forgive. Either don't have children or be prepared to be a very good father. That is something extremely difficult to do. She must feel as if you love her. And so must your future children. I think people with ASPD deserve to be loved. I think those with it who are responsible and willing to make that sacrifice for another for the rest of their lives should not be told they can't be with someone. I do not feel that anything excuses abusing another, particularly someone who has sacrificed themselves for you. And that includes emotional and verbal abuse. I do not think a person with aspd, who was responsible, that knew they would be a danger to a person close to them, would allow a relationship. Despite that almost impossible to control compulsion to manipulate. You can make a relationship successful for as long as you want to. However, although you may not understand why it's important, and probably don't care, you do have to consider the other person and the consequences of being with them "successfully" with the intention of dropping it later.